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1 YEAR. 12 TOPICS. 6 coaches. 6 mentors. Life-changing results.

THE OWNER’S MANUAL is the proven, step-by-step program to create a blueprint of what you WANT, what you DON’T, and the skills to create stunning healthy & happy relationships.

THE OWNER’S MANUAL is the proven, step-by-step program to create a blueprint of what you WANT, what you DON’T, and the skills to create stunning healthy & happy relationships.

IS

THIS

YOU?

IS THIS YOU?

I

GET

IT.

I GET IT

I actually more than get it...because I was you.

Hey, I’m Kira

Your Troop Leader of Love, certified coach & positive psychology practitioner around Relationship Quotient. For over fourteen years now, I’ve been helping singles just like you stop sabotaging their own sh*t and start creating healthy & loving relationships. 

But the first person I really had to help stop sabotaging…was myself.
 

Sabotages like: 

  • looking for love when I had no idea what I needed and was looking for.
  •  assuming people knew what I wanted without telling them.
  • choosing people who weren’t able to show up for me.
  • going back to people again & again even when I knew it wasn’t working.
  • allowing shitty behavior because I was scared no one else would choose me.
  • hunkering down & not leave my apartment because I had put on weight & was embarrassed of my body.

Hey, I’m Kira

Your Troop Leader of Love, certified coach & positive psychology practitioner around Relationship Quotient. For over fourteen years now, I’ve been helping singles just like you stop sabotaging their own sh*t and start creating healthy & loving relationships. 

But the first person I really had to help stop sabotaging…was myself.
 

Sabotages like: 

  • looking for love when I had no idea what I needed and was looking for.
  •  assuming people knew what I wanted without telling them.
  • choosing people who weren’t able to show up for me.
  • going back to people again & again even when I knew it wasn’t working.
  • allowing shitty behavior because I was scared no one else would choose me.
  • hunkering down & not leave my apartment because I had put on weight & was embarrassed of my body.
But  in 2013....

SOMETHING CHANGED

But  in 2013....

SOMETHING CHANGED ME!

Gather round to hear my magical tale full of: liars doubters trolls denial pain fear & great love Listen to my moment of truth

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And I took all that knowledge, research, personal lessons, & created a process 
to help singles who want a great relationship to get out of their own way.

To help them know that they are not unlovable or broken, they were just never taught skills & mindsets to build a beautiful, loving relationship.

And I took all that knowledge, research, personal lessons, & created a process 
to help singles who want a great relationship to get out of their own way.

To help them know that they are not unlovable or broken, they were just never taught skills & mindsets to build a beautiful, loving relationship.

“This process isn’t about finding the perfect relationship with a romantic partner; this is about improving your relationship with yourself, and all the “ships” you have in life: family, friends, coworkers, AND significant  others.”

Kendra, DC

**Cue choir of angels, kittens trumpets & toss the confetti.**

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Your Owner’s Manual

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A personalized guide to teach your future partner what you WANT,  what you DON’T, how you FEEL MOST LOVED, & how to TREAT YOU OVERALL.

IS THE

OM RIGHT

FOR YOU?

Here is what other OM participants said BEFORE the OM and then slide to button over to read what they had to say AFTER the OM.

BEFORE OM
AFTER OM

“Kira helps you to know yourself, how you think, what you need and want and what your priorities are and that is foundational for being able to foster the best and healthiest relationships not only with yourself but with others.”

Heather, CO

Ready to get a peek into the OM?

CHECK OUT THE OM PROCESS FOR TRANSFORMATION!

A Proven Step-By-Step Framework

This is the where the magic starts. 

For the past 14 years I have been curating videos, audios, quizzes, playlists, worksheets, and more to guide you step-by-step in understanding all the things about love and relationships that you never learned (but totally f*cking should have).  

You go at your own pace, building foundational knowledge, and skills to walk away ready to date or create a relationship with confidence.

Private Learning Portal & Community

When you sign-up, you’ll receive an instructional e-mail with how to access your personal (and private) learning portal on Mighty Networks where all of your work, the community, and discussion is happening. No need to have access to facebook here.

You’ll have a safe space to connect with me, and other incredible women like you who are also going through the process.  

You will have access to your portal indefinitely even after the OM is done so you can refer back to it while you are dating and creating your relationship.

Action steps & real life application

Who cares what you learn if you never get off your couch and apply it? #nobody. Which is why every single module of the Owner’s Manual will get you out trying new things, meeting new people, and stepping outside your comfort zone.

‘Cause that’s where all the good stuff happens, babycakes!

Group Video Calls with Kira & Smarty Farty Experts

Where you’ll bring all your WTF questions, and I’ll bring the laser-focused coaching and answers on all things love, dating and relationships. 

The calls are spread throughout the month so you just choose when feels best to you and your schedule. 

There will be evening and day time calls available to serve most time zones around the world!!

Check out the CALENDAR page to find out when calls are through February 2023!

Welcome Gift!

Who doesn’t love getting prezzies in the mail? 

You will receive a welcome package full of gifts to support you in your journey and a few fun ones because getting gifts is awesome.  

 

All-Access Pass to Kira & RQ

As a member of the Owner’s Manual you have an all-access pass to Kira, and all RQ events and courses for the year.

You can reach out to Kira 24-7 on the Voxer walkie talkie app to ask her questions and get advice.

All virtual events (like Love Reset) and Mini-workshops are free while you are in the Owner’s Manual.

“This work will change every facet of your life – yes, it will change your romantic relationships but it will change how you show up in every relationship….for the better.”

Amanda, PA

Happy relationships start with happy singles, & I’ve got the science to prove it.

This module is all about laying the foundation for the rest of the OM process. I introduce you to new daily practices (and of course the science behind it) to start moving your happiness set point while you cultivate gratitude and mindfulness.

You will walk away knowing how to:

1. Slowly build scientifically proven happiness skills to add to your life on a regular basis.

2. Understand happiness basics and what actually moves the Happiness Set Point.

3. Learn about the importance of mindfulness and mediation in building your happiness levels.

4. Learn about the importance of gratitude in our daily life.

If you’re feeling lost and confused in your love life, you’re not alone. The landscape of love has shifted & relationships in 2022 are dramatically different than they’ve ever been before.  Let’s be honest…it’s a shitshow out there.

So why are we dating the same way we did in 1968?

You will walk away knowing

  1. The history of love, dating, & relationships and why things are different now.
  2. The five stages of relationships and where most of us get stuck.
  3. Breaking down why you are single and figuring out what we need to work on.
  4. Understanding how to start making decisions out of love vs fear.

Have you ever met someone, thought there was potential, but then something weird popped up that made you think that it’s not a good match?

Here’s the thing: We all learn to show (and receive) love in different ways.

Someone could be a really great match for you, but they just don’t know how to love you. So we’re going to dig into the ways that you first learned love. Was it healthy? Is it helping you attract healthy people, or is it leading you down a road of unhappiness and disconnection?

You will walk away knowing…

  1.  EXACTLY what love is, what it isn’t, and how to get it.
  2. How you learned to love and building your IMAGO.
  3. What your attachment style is & how to work with it when dating & in a relationship.
  4. About love languages, what YOUR love languages are and how to work with other people’s love languages.

We all have a story, usually one that’s based on past experiences and things we’ve made up about ourselves along the way. In this module, we look into that story and investigate what beliefs and mindsets come along with it. 

After we dive into your story, what parts of your story can you ditch? What parts can you rewrite to create a story that moves you towards love, and away from fear.

You will walk away knowing…

  1. Reviewing, learning from, and releasing past relationships.
  2. Working towards forgiving everyone in our life from the past (including ourselves) for deeper peace.
  3. Rewriting your story into one with healing & hope!

Self-worth is one of the most important aspects of dating. If we don’t have it, everyone we meet becomes a potential “fixer”— and expecting someone else to make you feel worthy will kill a relationship faster than Raid kills ants.

Listen Bob the Builder, the only thing we are fixing from now on is the thigh holes in our jeans & dinner. 

This module, you’ll learn what self-worth really is, and why it really is so important. 

We look at how your self-worth (or lack thereof) is showing up in your dating and relationships with a self-worth assessment that highlights where you should be focusing your work. 

We also get into techniques that build your self-compassion, which in turn will boost your self-worth and equip you with the resilience to deal with rejection — while dating like a boss. This will genuinely change your life.

Your mind talks a lot of smack. It’s especially good at feeding you wackadoo thoughts and made-up stories that don’t help you AT ALL.

In this module, I’ll show you how to teach people how to treat you by exploring how you carry yourself, what you tolerate and how you react and respond to people and situations. Usually all of that is based on how we feel about ourselves deep on the inside, but trust me, your lack of confidence is being broadcast on the outside loud and clear.

Which is why I’ll show you how to understand the different types of thoughts and how to challenge what isn’t working for you anymore. You’ll learn about the beliefs and thinking traps that are keeping you unhappy and discover how to change the worry cycle that is affecting your dating and relationships.

After we understand what’s going on in your head, you’ll learn reframing techniques to get you through even the toughest days (and dates). I guide you through fully processing rejection and moving on from it. You also get the tried ‘n’ testing tools you need to control your thoughts so they don’t control you.

We’re all unique, sparkly unicorns because we each have different personalities, beliefs, and experiences. Because of that, we need different things in order to feel happy and safe. 

Knowing what you need to feel good and thrive in a relationship is an absolute must when you’re dating, yet so few of us really take the time to figure this stuff out.

Instead, we wait for the other person to make us feel happy and safe. And that, Sugarpants, is a recipe for relationship disaster.

In this module, we really untangle why values are so important, and you’ll learn how to recognize matching values in potential dates.

We’ll also uncover your strengths, so you know exactly what you have to offer a relationship, and what you need from another in order for the relationship to work. We focus in on learning to communicate without handing someone a questionnaire. I pinky promise.

Do you never want to tell someone NO because you’re afraid they’ll be upset or not like you? Do you bend over backwards to please others? Do you overshare (vomit out your life story) with people you just met because they’re “just going to have to like you for who you are”?  (Yup, that’s a boundary issue too.)

We look at people pleasing (trust me, it is killing you), co-dependence, and those big effing walls you like to put up and pretend are healthy. You’re going to discover INTERDEPENDENCE, and it’s going to completely shift how you show up in the world. (Hint: That’s where everyone feels fucking amazing!)

Want to know what the most attractive qualities are? Physical and emotional availability.

And to be clear, being on every app & site isn’t the right kind of availability.

When people meet you, they’ll instantly be looking to see how they fit into your life and what they can bring to your relationship. But is there actually room for them? Or are you so busy being Miss Awesome Independent that people meet you and have ZERO idea how to fit into your life? 

In this module, you’ll learn how to make sure you are coming off as physically and emotionally available, figuring out how people fit into your life, and why vulnerability is the key to great love.  

If you’re dating — but never connecting deeper — this is a MUST for you.

Now that you know All Of The Things, how do you actually use them for dating? I got you, boo. In this module, you’ll discover first date mindsets and learn the only three questions you need to ask yourself after every date. 

Next, I’ll show you how to spot emotional unavailability (sooner rather than later) and what to do about it.

Finally, you’ll learn when & how to be vulnerable in new situations, and when to set boundaries. I’m even going to give you scripts for the DTR (Define the Relationship) talk and other awkward dating situations. Phew!

So what happens when you actually meet someone you like? You’re both smitten and excited and ready to do this, right? 

The quick ‘n’ dirty truth: This is where the real work comes in. 

You’ll master how to get through the power struggle phase that every couple goes through — and end up happy on the other side. You’ll also learn how to peacefully and happily resolve conflicts (‘cause that sh*t is inevitable).

DOWNLOAD CALENDAR THROUGH FEBRUARY 2023!

“This work will challenge you, stretch you, & grow you, but you won’t regret showing up for you and the relationships in your life! Kira & this community make it possible to learn & grow in a welcoming, compassionate, & supportive setting.”

KRISTA, CA

By the end of your journey you will be able to:

Know what works –and doesn’t work –for YOU in relationships.

Have cultivated deep and unwavering
self-worth & self-compassion.

Feel more confident & in control while dating and meeting people.

KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE AND HAVE MEANINGFUL CONVERSATIONS WITH ANOTHER PERSON.

OPEN UP AND BE VULNERABLE (IN A GOOD WAY). ‘Cause love lies in where we are vulnerable.

BECOME EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE AND (MOSTLY)
BAGGAGE-FREE.

UNDERSTAND HOW YOU LOVE, AND YOUR PERSONAL ATTACHMENT STYLES.

KNOW WHEN TO STAY AND WHEN TO WALK AWAY… WITHOUT SECOND GUESSING YOURSELF.

UNDERSTAND SMART DATING & RELATIONSHIP TIMELINES TO SET THINGS UP FOR SUCCESS, EVERY TIME.

Know how to set personal boundaries with actual scripts & real life scenarios.

Know the difference between emotionally available partners & those who aren’t.

Be the smartest dating genius on the block. Unicorns will be in awe of you and unicorns are a tough crowd.

I think of all the YEARS I spent reading self-help articles, bitching to friends about my love life, and stumbling through the dating world on my own and I cringe, because in less than six months, Kira gave me all the life-changing tools I needed to build a healthy relationship.

Sara, OH

Meet the Team

After 14 years I know a Crap-ton about love, dating, & Relationships...
But i also know, that IT is only part of the conversation

To truly show up and wanting to keep showing up (because this stuff is hard), we also have to let go of trauma, learn how to process our emotions, build solid relationship skills like boundaries, trust, communication, conflict resolution, etc…and know ourselves well enough to get out of our own way.

That is why I have put together a team of incredible coaches and experts to support you through these changes.

 
Let’s face it, I have SUCKED at dating in the past. I even claimed myself to have a broken picker, but, my picker wasn’t broken, the hard truth is my self-worth & self-compassion was at an extremely concerning low. THIS SH!T WORKS and I am living, breathing proof! I have learned how to set boundaries, I know what I want, and how to communicate my needs in a healthy manner.
Cassie
MN

&don't forget about
live retreats!

BECAUSE OM LIVE RETREATS ARE THE SHIT!

I love the OM.  I love the process that I have created.  I have spent years perfecting the content, the structure, and understanding the best way people learn.

All of the knowledge is great, but do you know what is awesome? When we can get together and practice your new skills in a safe and comfortable space.  

Do you know what is even awesomer? 

When we can do that in Costa Rica!!! 🇨🇷🍍🥑🥥🌴🐠🐚🐒

I have been in love with and visiting CR since the 90s! I love it so much Danny, Rex and I lived there for the winter in 2017.  Now I want to share its magic with you.

Throughout the year there will be multiple retreats that you can join in Costa Rica.  This is where you (and all your new OM friends) dig in with me to practice everything you have learned. They will be one part learning + one part relaxing by the pool, eating yummy food and feeling good.  

I have taken women around the world on 24 Retreats/Events since 2014.  We make sure you are safe and comfortable.

I believe in all that I am that spending a week focused on you, relaxing, bonding, laughing, sharing, growing is one of the best things you could do for yourself.

Next retreats are:

Costa Rica February 2023 SOLD OUT

Summer 2023 TBA

OCT/NOV 2023 TBA

Check out pics from former retreats

The Owner’s Manual

 
YOUR 12 MONTH JOURNEY INCLUDES:
 
  • 12 Online Modules On Your Own Learning Portal full of workbooks, activities, videos, audios, meditations, challenges and so much more.  To slowly work on long-term change and growth. They will truly blow your mind!
  • TWELVE MONTHS (a whole year!) to finish your OM and then access to me and the group as you start dating.  When you really need it!
  • Multiple Coaching Calls  each month with Kira where we dig in, laugh, cry, get vulnerable, get silly, support, listen, learn and grow!  You will feel seen and heard in a whole new way.  Check out the calendar and jump on when it works for you.
  • Digging in deeper with guest experts and coaches.  I have created a team of incredible experts to lead workshops, skills practice, and deliver cutting edge information.  You have a whole team behind you!
  • The Best Darn Community of Ladies EVER!  If you have been wanting a group of healthy, smart, incredible women in your life…#challengeaccepted!
  • OM Grads and Mentors who have been through the process and came out the other side.  They are there to cheer you on and share their own stories.
  • Regular fun online events like Pajama Party Movie Nights, OM Jeopardy, Self Compassion Skills calls,  Scavenger Hunts, Guest expert Interviews..learning doesn’t have to be boring.
  • Access to live events and retreats in Costa Rica & Wisconsin with Kira that are ONLY for OM participants.
  • Welcome Gift Basket with books, prezzies and everything you need to start digging in.
  • Changing the way you move through this world so you can feel more confident, relaxed, excited, and hopeful about love.  Isn’t that the point?
 

The Owner’s Manual


YOUR 12 MONTH JOURNEY INCLUDES:
  • 12 Online Modules On Your Own Learning Portal full of workbooks, activities, videos, audios, meditations, challenges and so much more.  To slowly work on long-term change and growth. They will truly blow your mind!
  • TWELVE MONTHS (a whole year!) to finish your OM and then access to me and the group as you start dating.  When you really need it!
  • Multiple Coaching Calls  each month with Kira where we dig in, laugh, cry, get vulnerable, get silly, support, listen, learn and grow!  You will feel seen and heard in a whole new way.  Check out the calendar and jump on when it works for you.
  • Digging in deeper with guest experts and coaches.  I have created a team of incredible experts to lead workshops, skills practice, and deliver cutting edge information.  You have a whole team behind you!
  • The Best Darn Community of Ladies EVER!  If you have been wanting a group of healthy, smart, incredible women in your life…#challengeaccepted!
  • OM Grads and Mentors who have been through the process and came out the other side.  They are there to cheer you on and share their own stories.
  • Regular fun online events like Pajama Party Movie Nights, OM Jeopardy, Self Compassion Skills calls,  Scavenger Hunts, Guest expert Interviews..learning doesn’t have to be boring.
  • Access to live events and retreats in Costa Rica & Wisconsin with Kira that are ONLY for OM participants.
  • Welcome Gift Basket with books, prezzies and everything you need to start digging in.
  • Changing the way you move through this world so you can feel more confident, relaxed, excited, and hopeful about love.  Isn’t that the point?
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  • New Accountability Groups with an OM Accountability Coach to check in with you weekly to make sure you feel seen, supported, and an embraced part of the community. (worth $1200)
  •  FREE Access to all Mini courses such as The Difference between Needs & Needy and How to spot people not ready for a relationship
 

YOUR OWNER'S MANUAL

$ 399
Monthly
  • TWELVE MONTHS of Coaching, Community, Calls, Classes, & Accountability
  • 12 Online Modules On Your Own Learning Portal
  • Multiple Coaching Calls each month with Kira
  • Multiple Coaching Calls a Month with Other Experts
  • The Best Darn Community of Ladies EVER!
  • Different Types of Events for Different Learning Styles.
  • OM Grads and Mentors that help Keep you Accountable
  • Welcome Gift Basket of awesome tools for your experience
  • Changing the way you move through this world

YOUR OWNER'S MANUAL
WITH KIRA

$ 699
Monthly
  • EVERYTHING in Your Owner's Manual PLUS +
  • 12 One-on-One 60 Minute Sessions with Kira
  • To use throughout the process to dig in deeper.

  • Four Day Live In-Person Retreat
  • You work with Kira on time and location.  Your Airfare & Accommodations are not included.

  • Personal Check-ins on Voxer (the walkie talkie app) to keep you accountable and moving through the process.
  • ONLY 4 Spots Open A Year

INTERESTED IN CHANGING YOUR LIFE WITH ME?

Set-up a No-Pressure Call below
to see if the OM is a good fit for you!

“Wait Kira, I Have a Question!”

 

You’re in luck: Answers are my specialty.

Here are some of the most common questions I get asked by prospective OM clients.

Don’t take my word for it! (anyone get that Reading Rainbow reference?)

In case you haven’t looked at my obnoxious amount of testimonials…here are a few more!

After my time with Kira I decided to travel solo over 12K miles working on myself along the way. One of my last stops was my hometown where I reunited with a childhood friend. We are now co-creating a beautiful relationship where everything is falling into place effortlessly, beautifully. And because of the OM I recognized a great man and I was ready.

The rest of my life relationships, all of them, will be blessed because Kira helped me find my way. Fix thyself and the rest will follow. – Cindy

Want to read more testimonials? Click here.


The lessons that I learned and applied lead me to find a love that I never dreamt possible, and we’re getting married in June. Just to name a few things that I learned/applied that lead me to where I am:

1. Realize what I want, and what I don’t want
2. Be brave and try new things (in my case it was Tinder! Where I met Seth )
3. Don’t ignore red flags! (I was a serial red flag ignorer)
4. Probably most importantly COMMUNICATE – what you want, what you like, what you don’t; it’s OK to communicate these things and can lead to a stronger, healthier relationship. I look back at how and who I dated and can see how much I grew just from your podcasts and class. So thank you – I’m truly happier than I ever thought was possible. I realized who I was and what I wanted through your class, and I found someone who loves me for me, treats me well, supports me, you name it…

THANK YOU!

Paula (recently engaged!)

Want to read more testimonials? Click here.


Right now I am in the best relationship of my life and I do not say that lightly.    We have been in a relationship for 15 months.  It’s a relationship filled with mutual respect and love.  We communicate very well together and are deeply in love with each other.   We both have  past hurts that creep up sometimes and I’m most proud that we can communicate so well so we know what we need from each other.    Last week he said something unintentionally that hurt me and I was able to articulate what it was that he said and how it made me feel and he was able to immediately realize why I would feel that way.    We talked it out and it was a very grown up conversation.     I can’t believe it took me 7 years to find him but it was worth the wait.     I just now texted him and asked him if he had anything to add and he said ‘Life is best when shared with someone special.   Keep it light and full of laughter’.     That sums up our relationship so well.   

Forever grateful for Kira and the hard work she does with helping other women be who they were meant to be.   Krystal

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Before the OM I felt like I only chose unavailable men. They were in another relationship, emotionally unavailable, long-distance, demanding jobs…But the OM showed me that I was being  unavailable because I was not showing up fully as myself and asking for what was important to me. I also learned that I needed to to look for men who I deserved to have in my life, vs me trying to fit the desires and lifestyles or “who they were looking for”.

I was able to find a partner who had the same interest and ability to communicate, be introspective, supportive, show up fully for each other daily, and share intimacy. We are deeply grateful for what we have each day yet are committed to growth as individuals and as a couple.

Julie, Madison

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Once I met Bryan, I knew this time it would be different. I  immediately went into OM mode. I set a boundary (him not needing to see me every day) & he followed it. I set another boundary (him buying me dinner all the time….a previous abusive relationship trigger) and he followed it. (Rinse and repeat for the last 5 months!) And yes, he sets them too.

We talk all the time about us. Asking how each others day is, how we can help each other through things, and what (if any) is working our last nerve so those tiny things don’t come up in a disagreement for no reason.  We talk when things aren’t comfortable and that includes those uncomfortable triggers…but we work through them TOGETHER. I now feel like a happy, content, fulfilled, joyful & a better, empowered woman!

Every single woman on this earth should do this. Married, divorced, single, widowed, etc. It’s about personal development.

Michelle, Madison

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I’ve been seeing my new man-friend for 4 months now, and we had a two hour conversation last night about how neither of us would have been ready for what we are building prior to this time in our lives. We each have different strategies for how we’re working on ourselves so as to be able to be present and active in our relationship – and the OM class was a huge part of my growth.

Valuing myself, greater self-awareness, knowing what a relationship can and can’t do for me, understanding and feeling comfortable communicating boundaries, asking for (and knowing) what I need, sitting in vulnerability, realizing when I’m telling stories about who I am/he is (versus really looking at what actually is), being realistic and honest with myself and him about my own issues — these are all things I am more able to do because of the work that was spurred on during the OM class. Thank you Kira!  

Leah – Madison, WI  (now 2 years and counting!)

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We met three months ago in a serendipitous and spontaneous gathering of mutual friends at a concert in Chicago, and have been enjoying and building a slow-going but steady friendship and relationship  since. In the early weeks, he chuckled and called me a “fucking unicorn,” and has since nicknamed me “Uni” for short. He calls me every morning to hear my live voice vs texting (score!), and all of our friends say the connection they see (and we feel) is undeniable. Looking forward to future things. So grateful for the OM !

Lisa

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Tonight we are going to  review my Owner’s Manual  and begin talks about living together! I’m so excited (and not anxious) to hear his thoughts and share mine. I have never had a relationship like this before where I am comfy being myself.

I am where I am because of what I learned from you…I’m open, informed, in touch with who I am and what I want and need! Thank you from my whole heart! You rocked my fucking world Kira!!

Sherri

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Kira gave me the real talk I needed; she had me put on my big girl panties and take a good look at myself and what I wanted.  The growth I experienced from her coaching helped me transform my attitude about dating, and I’ve since snagged the love of my life (who loves my big girl panties btw) and I’m exactly where I want to be!!

– Jeanne,  Madison, WI (now happily married )

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Yup.  It is worth every cent. You know what is more expensive? Couples therapy.

And can you really put a price on amazing relationships and waking up loved for who you are every. single. day?  Wait, I totally did.  $4200.  This program is half the price and twice the impact of most of my competitors.  Why?  Because I am trying to change the way we date and have relationships in this world!

Just a reminder of here is what is included!

You have mind-blowing content and support for 12 months! THAT’S A YEAR!!

You get 12+ years of my blood, sweat, tears, research, conversations, story-collecting, coaching, live events, retreats, coaching certificate, positive psychology certificate and obsession with love and relationships. And you get to borrow all of that brain anytime you want on the Q & A calls or in the FB community that I visit multiple times a day and at a live event!

You get an amazing community of women who are doing the work just like you!  Having better and smarter conversations, changing their lives and getting shit done!

You get access to a live retreat(s) in Costa Rica & Wisconsin that is nothing less than life-changing and you will walk away confident, supported, happy and loved.

You even get awesome gifts to support you in your changes and a few fun ones because getting gifts is awesome.

But most importantly, you will walk away knowing what you personally need, how to ask for it, how to set boundaries, how to communicate, how to be vulnerable, how to date for success and how to create incredible love with another person.

That is worth everything.

Of course you are nervous!  That is 100% normal.  Getting real with ourselves and vulnerable with others can feel super scary!  

But the stuff you are scared of looking at is affecting you whether you address it or not.  So why not look at it, learn from that sh#t, and let go of it?

But let me tell you this.  Getting real and getting vulnerable are crucial for all relationships, so why not practice in a completely safe and supportive space.  So when you are ready to get to know someone, you already have practiced the skills to do it!

Just like riding a unicorn, this shit gets real…..real fast. 🙂

I will be your biggest cheerleader, because I want this for you.  But I will also call you out on perspectives and mindsets that are holding you back.  But I do it in a super kind way.

But don’t be confused…I am not here to always be your friend, I am here to change your life.  I will tell you the things that your friends and families won’t.  That is why you pay me the big bucks.

This will be one of the hardest things you have ever done, but if you REALLY do it, you will walk away a better person.  That part is up to you.

Here is what a current OM participant had to say…

I am reflecting on my July goals and gratitude and just wanted to tell you Kira Sabin that I wrote you down as the person I am grateful for. You continue to push me but also support me every step of the way. When I first signed up I was really intimidated and wasn’t sure if I could really open up for fear of having you blasting me in the group. I realize now that you truly hold people accountable but in the most loving and supportive way. You also don’t just let us sit in our bullshit you ask questions and encourage us to dig in. Just wanted you to know how thankful I am that I found your podcast and I’m loving this adventure and this year with you. So glad I took the leap and your guidance along the way means the world. I just can’t wait to get to Mexico and meet you in person.”

I am a HUGE fan of therapy.  HUGE!  Therapy changed my life and started me on this 20 years and counting self acceptance journey.  If you know you have leftover trauma from childhood or a past relationship…start there!  In fact, I encourage you to have a therapist through the OM process.  We even have two therapists on the team!

I have even had many therapists recommend and even go through this program because we all need support and guides to evolve and grow.

But when you have done therapy and are ready to focus on dating and relationship mindsets and skills…that is where the OM comes in. We do a little focus on the past to learn from it (module 3 and 4), but most of our work is looking towards the future! What YOU need for a healthy relationship, what mindsets and perspectives are holding you back, what skills do you need to build to find and keep an amazing relationship.

Here are what a few former clients have said…

I’m 40 years old and I’ve never been married. I spent my 30s falling for a rogues gallery of unavailable men. When I decided that I was ready to change that, I turned to Kira Sabin and the Owners Manual class. I’ve seen therapists in the past. I’ve uncovered the parental issues. I’ve identified the patterns. I wanted to take action. “How did you learn to love?” Kira asked and my world changed. If I learned to love one way (a way that wasn’t working for me), that meant I could learn to love in a new way, a way that does work for me. With Kira’s guidance and the incredible support from my classmates, I am breaking down my behaviors, learning how to establish boundaries and trust, and clearly identifying and articulating what I need for a healthy relationship. For the first time in my life, I am learning how to deeply care for myself in life and love and the ripple effects are already transformational. Kira is an empowering, inspirational, down and dirty, honest troop leader. If you’re ready to change your love, join Kira Sabin’s Owner’s Manual class. It’s the best investment I’ve ever made in myself.  – Susanna, NYC

 

 

“As a new clinical psychologist I’ve had 7 year of training in many different treatment modalities, techniques, and have gone through my own therapy treatment. I’ve gone to tons of trainings, workshops, conferences, but, honestly, this has been one of the most transformative and eye opening experiences That I’ve ever had and I want to thank you so much for all you do. I’ve learned so much more about myself these past 10 weeks, than I’ve learned in the past 10 years. Much of it was painful to examine at times, other times it was so validating, either way it was hugely necessary. I’m still realizing that I need to heal old wounds.. and continue working on breaking my maladaptive patterns..but at least now, I know what needs healing. I’ve also been setting boundaries like a Mofo and having tough as shit conversations-which I’ve hide away from soo much cause I was that person who never spoke up out of fear!! Thanks to this course I finally learning what I need from others and learning how to communicate that! For example, over xmas break.. I set some significant boundaries with my parents..(this is huge) and Finally after 5 years had a heart to heart conversation with my best friend of 30 years!! Natasha

 

 

I have worked with Kira for a short time, and I am so transformed.  I think of all the YEARS I spent reading self-help articles, bitching to friends about my love life, and stumbling through the dating world on my own and I cringe, because in less than six months, Kira gave me all the life-changing tools I needed to build a healthy relationship.  And even more importantly, I know myself better and love myself more.  Why didn’t I call her sooner?!  In the Owner’s Manual, Kira assigned fun but challenging homework assignments that pushed me to shift the way I see myself and share with others.  Then she used my journals and reflections as the starting point for our conversations.  Our sessions went deeper than therapy because they had focus.  At the end of each session, I felt a surge of confidence to get out there in the world and be vulnerable, and to connect with people from a place of trust and love.  It’s helped me with dating, with my relationship with my family, and with asking for help pursuing other goals.  I needed help with money, so I got a financial planner.  I needed help being healthier, so I sought out new exercise instructors.  And I really needed help asking for what I need and deserve, so I got a life coach.  And I’m truly grateful that I did.  This past chapter of my single life was full of self-doubt and constant chaos. Now I have started a new one of trust, romance, and excitement for the future. And it’s a page-turner!  Sara

The video calls will be offered throughout the month and you choose the times you want to come that work best for your schedule. 

Here is the calendar to see if you can find times to work!

I am beyond honored to work with the ladies in the OM.  These women are wicked smart, kind,  thoughtful, and authentic.  They are generous with their stories and their support.   It has provided me with a great group of like minded women; who encourages and supports me as well as cheers me on throughout my journey. It’s quite amazing really!  – Indhira, NYC I never expected in a million years that I would also be connected to the most incredible women I have ever met. Doing the OM and having this  community has been life changing, The love and support that I have received has changed me completely as a person. I am so thankful I have these women in my life and to have created lifelong connections and friendships with positive, like minded, supportive, loving, women. – Cassie The women who were part of the OM  are truly some of the most beautiful, strong, intelligent, compassionate, and supportive women I have ever had the pleasure of meeting.  We were able to form a strong bond almost immediately and our friendships have only just begun.  What a cool experience it has been to connect with these women and to watch them grow, while experiencing my own personal growth at the same time! – Kathryn

One whole YEAR! 

I have learned that it takes time to not only do the work but also process and practice. You are unlearning years if not decades of unhealthy behavior. 

You start your pre-work the day you sign-up and you have one year from the day you sign-up to finish the work.  That’s about a module a month.  That is TOTALLY doable.

After your year is up you can extend your time if you want continued support and you will also have access to your portal indefinitely to refer back to whenever you need it.

February 2022

At this point, I plan on running the OM 3-4 times a year.  

Our approximate dates to start a new cohort in 2022 are February, May,  and September.

Learning

You will be starting with the next cohort on May 15th.

You will need access to a computer with internet.  You will also need a device with a camera and speakers for our video calls.

Here are a few things to plan on. Expect to dedicate 2-3 hours for homework, calls and community time. 

Trust the process.  You will hear me say that a lot.  There is a reason everything is in the order it is in.

Plus this isn’t about finishing quickly, it is about learning, processing, sharing, and changing.

RETREAT QUESTIONS

All retreats moving forward will be at safe and stunning rentals or bougie boutique hotels in Costa Rica.

Because if we are going to hang out and dig into sh#t, let’s do that in a beautiful location. Relaxing and drinking mojitos (nojitos if you don’t drink).

It is not. 

However, I keep these affordable so you can come.  Most retreats will be 6-7 days and between $1200-$2500 per person depending on dates, location, and venue.

It will depend on the location but most likely San Jose, CR.

 

Absolutely.  As we get closer to the event you will have the opportunity to find a roommate in the OM group.

There will be at least two to three, if not more, retreats during your time in the OM.  Come to one or come to all!  If you can’t make the first one, another will be around the corner.

The event is an important part of this process and my goal is to get 100% participation for your sake, not mine.  

These events are totally and completely life-changing.  However, the events are a totally optional part of the process.

 

LOGISTICS

Right now, sweet thing.  

You can sign-up at anytime through May 15th, 2022.  Next cohort will start in Fall 2022.

The Internet pixies will fly into action, delivering your welcome email and confirmation.  

 

Both. Your course modules are delivered online (via our slick af online learning system), but there are also video conference calls, virtual meetups/events and retreats all over!

Well you and I both know that I can’t make you do anything. 🙂  

However, this beautiful experience is not meant to be done alone. We need others to share, connect and learn with and from.  

In this community, you will meet incredible women who will be there for you and will push you further and faster than you could ever go on your own.

Heck yes!  Bring two!

You have the first 2 weeks after you sign-up to ask for a refund through email.  At that time, you will get whatever you paid minus $300 – $400 for admin, set-up fees and your welcome gift.

Anytime after that your payment is refundable only in the form of a program credit that is good for up to a year. If anything you have paid will remain in our system to be applied to be used for the program up to one year.  

Each case will be looked at on a case-by-case basis.  If we agree to pause the program temporarily, you can come back and finish it within one year of your pause date.  

No problem! Danny, my hubs and our client concierge will answer all of your email questions! Email Danny

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